Why does it happen? As women, somehow, my physical and mental challenges occur for a long or short time, and I completely do not understand my real me. I deeply analyze the answer. The mood depends on the internal or outside situation; it does not produce by myself. So, the tendencies from the fact are not conscious, which can define the unreal vs. real me; it just happens. It is playing inside the brain where it needs to put the information to utilize where not. I read Dr. van der Kolk’s book because I like to “troubleshoot” myself and take proactive action to fix whatever needs fixing. The results were a mixed bag, and I’m learning that this is one area in which I need to be patient and, more critically, gentle with myself. When you understand the inner trauma or outside the terms of the ugliest truth, the process of stretching the mind can be handled. The actual me understands the whole process consistent with the belief.
“I am in faulty and inaccurate mood” – What does it mean? Emotional Distortion and Mental Filtering. Life gives us continuous reverses, drawbacks, and challenges. Life doesn’t know your capacity to adapt or accept the reversals. You know you and your weaknesses and strengths. You know better than you. Somebody gives you advice that is good for you but remembers that it does fit with your capacity, then accept it mentally. If you are a beginner runner, you cannot run 5 miles a day. You need a baby step with the 100 feet first to catch the 5 miles flow with everyday practice. We people quickly label others with some circumstances. But we are not what we act in the situations; situations do not mark our characteristics. Act in different situations; people understand you differently, not accurately you. Our brain records everything, every moment, every expression, and it will come up sometimes to feel upset; you need to understand the healing process. The healing process is that thoughts are contingent; they come from your five senses, seeing, feeling, smelling, and touching something you have already experienced.
What i am talking about, cognitive distortions are negative or irrational patterns of thinking. These negative thought patterns can play a role in diminishing your motivation, lowering your self-esteem, and contributing to problems like anxiety, depression, and substance use. Anyone can experience cognitive distortion, which the American Psychological Association defines as “faulty or inaccurate thinking, perception or belief.” Negativity is often the defining characteristic. For some of us, distorted thinking is a momentary blip. We get upset when we fail a math test. But math test does not define your intellectuality. Here is based on your concentration, interest, ability to mindset, etc. Sometimes you are upset because you think what people said to you, you are not what people said. Because people see you in a different situation where you act based on the creating situation, you may use your action without knowledge or experiences or with experiences. The experiences you are feeling may be in a different mood at that time.
If childhood trauma is the reason for your mental distortion of emotional unhealthiness at some point. Fix your inner child. Hug your inner child, and say, Don’t worry, I am here to be with you, come, come from the cage, give you freedom, take care of you. You are safe in my hand. Don’t feel lonely and untidy. I will be with you forever, and you will be a tidy and smiley child” Your inner child will listen to you. And, you must keep practicing every day until you feel accepted in your past.
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Why do we think only of the surface palace of the human mind because it is easy to imitate by appearance? Or we do not waste time getting into it. We may use a stoic mentality, but it is not to be defined to be stoic. Ultimately, it is nothing. The reason we need to be busy is to imitate the sound behind the pain. The true understanding is to motivate the inner mind when it is foggy. We do not know when and what we are doing and why. We do not question ourselves. The clear purpose of life makes life more meaningful, but a foggy mind can make foggier and drizzle the thought to be shattered. And, it is not romantic!
Fear affected your way of thinking and established some false statements, where you can quickly publish life itself. Fear performs when the conscious mind searches for direction, and anxiety is involved with continuous everyday practice. Every fear connects with the neural networks of the unconscious mind. And, it happens when belief system error to perform. We are believing fear because our thought and belief system is erroring itself through practicing wrong understanding. Fear isn’t always wrong because there is good fear and bad fear. Good fear helps to force positive intention towards action, and we are leading an ordinary life; rather, bad fear makes overthinking and builds frustration to cut confidence. Humans know there is always a way to get out from common mental barriers, but existence can think the deeper level of the mental ocean, where the real answer of the question.
When you are in a situation of vulnerability, and you become empty. It may help to think you twice if you understand the code of the sense. The principle of mind is too irresponsible of other thoughts of life. The deep sense of emptiness is to run against the fellow of the black door. The door of wicked feeling may become transparent to move your place and follow their associate. Mind is the infinite ocean where it can heal the cruel. But, understanding the parallel of the emptiness can confuse and defuse you. Emptiness means you can think appropriately about the situation, not you are alone. Meditation can help to attract emptiness. The mind flywheel needs to train by every moment. It can break down inside, it can bend inside, but to stick with the feelings can be practiced to be an empty sense.