Why does it happen? As women, somehow, my physical and mental challenges occur for a long or short time, and I completely do not understand my real me. I deeply analyze the answer. The mood depends on the internal or outside situation; it does not produce by myself. So, the tendencies from the fact are not conscious, which can define the unreal vs. real me; it just happens. It is playing inside the brain where it needs to put the information to utilize where not. I read Dr. van der Kolk’s book because I like to “troubleshoot” myself and take proactive action to fix whatever needs fixing. The results were a mixed bag, and I’m learning that this is one area in which I need to be patient and, more critically, gentle with myself. When you understand the inner trauma or outside the terms of the ugliest truth, the process of stretching the mind can be handled. The actual me understands the whole process consistent with the belief.
“I am in faulty and inaccurate mood” – What does it mean? Emotional Distortion and Mental Filtering. Life gives us continuous reverses, drawbacks, and challenges. Life doesn’t know your capacity to adapt or accept the reversals. You know you and your weaknesses and strengths. You know better than you. Somebody gives you advice that is good for you but remembers that it does fit with your capacity, then accept it mentally. If you are a beginner runner, you cannot run 5 miles a day. You need a baby step with the 100 feet first to catch the 5 miles flow with everyday practice. We people quickly label others with some circumstances. But we are not what we act in the situations; situations do not mark our characteristics. Act in different situations; people understand you differently, not accurately you. Our brain records everything, every moment, every expression, and it will come up sometimes to feel upset; you need to understand the healing process. The healing process is that thoughts are contingent; they come from your five senses, seeing, feeling, smelling, and touching something you have already experienced.
What i am talking about, cognitive distortions are negative or irrational patterns of thinking. These negative thought patterns can play a role in diminishing your motivation, lowering your self-esteem, and contributing to problems like anxiety, depression, and substance use. Anyone can experience cognitive distortion, which the American Psychological Association defines as “faulty or inaccurate thinking, perception or belief.” Negativity is often the defining characteristic. For some of us, distorted thinking is a momentary blip. We get upset when we fail a math test. But math test does not define your intellectuality. Here is based on your concentration, interest, ability to mindset, etc. Sometimes you are upset because you think what people said to you, you are not what people said. Because people see you in a different situation where you act based on the creating situation, you may use your action without knowledge or experiences or with experiences. The experiences you are feeling may be in a different mood at that time.
If childhood trauma is the reason for your mental distortion of emotional unhealthiness at some point. Fix your inner child. Hug your inner child, and say, Don’t worry, I am here to be with you, come, come from the cage, give you freedom, take care of you. You are safe in my hand. Don’t feel lonely and untidy. I will be with you forever, and you will be a tidy and smiley child” Your inner child will listen to you. And, you must keep practicing every day until you feel accepted in your past.
Why do we think only of the surface palace of the human mind because it is easy to imitate by appearance? Or we do not waste time getting into it. We may use a stoic mentality, but it is not to be defined to be stoic. Ultimately, it is nothing. The reason we need to be busy is to imitate the sound behind the pain. The true understanding is to motivate the inner mind when it is foggy. We do not know when and what we are doing and why. We do not question ourselves. The clear purpose of life makes life more meaningful, but a foggy mind can make foggier and drizzle the thought to be shattered. And, it is not romantic!
“There is a need to…mover from a reductionist, a temporal, disembodied, static, rationalist, emotion- and culture-free view, to fundamentally richer understandings that include the primacy of action, intention, emotion, culture, real-time constraints, real-world opportunities, and the peculiarities of living bodies.” [ Freeman & Nunez, 1999,p.ix]
The reaction is faster than action. A silent mode can create the holiday of working pattern, and we become sick of the creating environmental arena.
Muscular movement is not properly working when it should be granted for the outside pitch. Think out of the box is common metaphor we all know but we believe out of what we see, what we hear and what we believe. We have to understand our brain capacity; we have to dance with our mind. We need to reuse our depth of mind then we can achieve what we want and what we need to want actually.
Building up visualization muscle helped do this more efficiently. Admittedly, there are times when still catch subvocalizing. Sometimes need to read slowly, such as when reading conceptually dense material that is new. Developing “visualization muscle” played a key role in helping me become a more flexible reader. Memory seemed to improve even its using the techniques. It became easier to take “mental snapshots” of images and to convert ideas I am thinking or reading about into pictures or symbols. For knowledge workers, perhaps the highest leverage use of this visualization muscle is for beginning projects with the end in mind. Not all displays are created equal, and the best visualizations are the ones that generate the most efficient actions toward project completion. If at the end of each day, you can reflect on the day’s activities and honestly detect progress toward your goal, then you are on the right track. Over time, through additional trial and error, you may find that you can refine y our visualizations to further enhance their effectiveness.
Bidita Rahman 